It makes me smile. In the UK we are renowned for our capability to strike up a conversation about the weather with anyone and everyone who’s willing (and admittedly unwilling or unsuspectingly caught at times).
In truth it’s not a “real” conversation as we are just stating facts and agreeing with each other. With our tongue in cheek humour, we laugh at ourselves – if you visit our country and you can join in this talk, welcome to our way.
To the untrained ear, it may sound like we are always moaning; I believe the Aussies refer to us as ‘Whinging Poms’ (smile).
Yes, our recent hot weather has been amazing – we love the sun (Let’s face it to be guaranteed hot weather most of us who can will travel abroad.) We express to all and sundry how lovely it is but ‘just a little too hot’…
The sea breeze near the coast freshen the air – we love the breeze, but it prevents us from putting up our sun umbrellas as they get blown away. So we say how lovely it is but ‘just a little too strong’…
The warm summer nights arrive, we love socialising outdoors with friends and family, no need for a jumper, our idea of holiday weather, how lovely it is but ‘a little too warm indoors’…
The rain we have been waiting for comes. (A little aside note here, my husband has just returned from shopping as I am typing, his first words to me on this, our first rain since the heatwave is, “it’s not coming down quite as heavy but still coming down” – he doesn’t know the topic of my blog and rather bemused by my laughter – I have had to take a minute out to explain!). We are so lucky not have to worry about drought, a welcome drenching for our scorched earth, it’s lovely but ‘does it have to rain ALL day’…
In the winter, before Christmas time, we as adults get our kids all excited at the thought of fun in the snow. After a few days, unequipped to cope with snow, we want it to melt, it’s lovely but “it’s too slippery now, can’t go out’…
Do you get the gist? We really are so fortunate to experience such varied weather. It is the very extremes that make it such a talking point.
Our standard homes are not fitted with air-conditioning, but for such a short time do we really need it? Our heating is, in truth, far more necessary. Our carpeted floors are appreciated in the winter, but tiles are so wonderfully cool in the heat. Opting for summer time flooring and adding rugs in winter is maybe the option!
I feel that our ever changing seasons are like our every changing life. We enjoy the good, deal with difficulties and look ahead to repeats of the things we love. How wonderful to not have the chance to get bored. How appreciative we are of what makes us feel good when we can balance it against what isn’t so good.
So, next time someone ‘passes the time of day’ with you by making a comment on the weather, try and see it as complement, you obviously are being seen as person deserving of their time. We Brits are being friendly when we talk about the weather, you will invariably see us smile on parting.
I see it as a metaphor for life, if I say “what a lovely day” I am feeling good and want to share that with you and, if we are darting for cover as the storm arrives, we share the discomfort but know it will be over before tomorrow.
If you have read this far, thank you for giving me your time to read about the weather, and I haven’t been moaning, honest, – have a great day …
In physics, opposites attract and like repel. Does this apply in biology?
I am no scientist, but I remember during my childhood loving to play with magnets and the more powerful the attraction, the more thrilled I was. The “positively” charged ion would draw the “negative” charged ion forcefully, whereas a like “positive” would be pushed powerfully away.
In relationships it is commonly heard; opposites attract. I know I am drawn to those who are different to me. I am intrigued, fascinated, interested to learn more. However, I am comfortable, relaxed, complete when sharing like ideas and conversations with others of a similar nature to myself.
Then there are the opposites in nature that I consider to be cruel or unkind, and I certainly have no attraction to this! In nature, I am positively drawn to what I consider to be positive attributes, leading me to believe we are drawn to positive (another commonly stated fact).
I try and stay positive; the charge is not always at full strength but when I feel the negativity I boost my effort.
I don’t want to repel others by being negative. Thinking on my depressed and low phases however, I seem to have drawn other depressed people to me; but I didn’t want to attract that I needed positivity. However, the positive seemed drained by me and pulled away! I lost friends.
I can now experience such feel good times, they amaze even me! I believe improvement is possible, positive thoughts work. When a friend is down, I want to inspire and share with them a little of my euphoria to say, if I can get over my obstacles so can they. I won’t be the friend that turns away. But this is where sometimes my positivity seems to work against me. I perceive they feel their pain (emotional or physical) must be worse than mine, or I couldn’t possibly be as I am. I back off (a little), at this moment they do feel worse than me, I got through it. They don’t want to hear it, not yet. So can we be too positive for others? Can we seem unreal? Do we make ourselves something enviable instead of inspirational?
So, my final thought is, do we need to acquire an understanding of balance? To be mindful of timing? We need to experience sadness to appreciate happiness. We are an amalgamation of positive and negative emotions and traits. Learning to allow ourselves to be both, have empathy for others in their negative and take pleasure in their positive. Acknowledge we can be attracted to negative, positive and indeed neutral for our own individual reasons.
We, as humans, are not an exact science – we are an “oxymoron” (I love that word)! Enjoy a balanced day …..